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In Your Dreams

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Waking up hot and bothered? Could be that you were dreaming of firefighters or it could be the X-rated position you were sleeping in. A survey of 173 people (including 3,500 of their dreams) reveals that 8% of our midnight musings involve sex. The subjects of those nightscapes (if it’s not being reuscitated by a firefighter)? The deed itself, followed by sexual propositions, kissing, fantasies and masturbation. Big shocker–men were twice as likely to dream of multiple sex partners.

Sexual dreams in which a current or past partner appeared –(Men - 20%) (Women - 14%)

Reported having an orgasm in their dreams — (Men - 4%) (Women - 4%)

Said their sex-dream partner experienced orgasm in their dream — (Men - 4%) (Women - 0%)

Sex dreams in which a celebrity appeared– (Men - 9%) (Women - 5%)

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Valentine’s Day - Gift Ideas For That Special Man

It’s tough to find Valentine’s Day gifts for men. Sometimes, what they want is just hugely expensive. Laptops, cameras, motorcycles and more all carry a hefty price tag. But more often the problem is how to move away from the mundane and find that special gift, one that says you know what he likes.

 

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Ask his friends. Whatever he hasn’t told you, he has told them. They won’t tell you his secrets, but they will tell you what he has confessed he wants for Valentine’s Day. That may be the music you never knew he liked. Or, it could be a special vacation he has just never thought to tell you about.

Ask his Dad. Men are often more like their fathers than they want to admit. Ask his dad what your special man would like. Chances are he’ll have some good guesses. It might be that golf club he didn’t want to mention because it seemed too extravagant.

Maybe you haven’t been together long enough to know what to get. Or, you might not have in mind something quite that expensive. No problem. Valentine’s Day is the most flexible holiday. It’s for couples married for 50 years and those who have known one another only 50 minutes.

A Valentine’s Day is one way to say you’d like to move it up a notch. A beautiful watch might be more than your relationship warrants just now. But a fine alligator band is both practical and a chance to inscribe his initials on the inside with your special hint.

Wine can be a great choice. It’s something you can share, yet gives an opportunity to say ‘I know what you like’. But that idea can extend to just about anything. The key is to make the gift reflect his individual interests and desires.

Combine the two ideas. You want to get to know him better, and you want to choose something that fits him well. But how do you do one without already knowing the other? By extending whatever you already know about him.

He’s the outdoors type. That’s something that doesn’t take long to find out. People act and dress a certain way that tells you right away. Great! Go on a picnic in the snow. Arrange a scavenger hunt in the forest. At the end, he finds you.

He loves gadgets. One look at his apartment and you’ll know that. Here you’re in luck. Because even those guys that have a thousand toys, can always use a thousand accessories to go with them. Camera buffs always need new filters. Audiophiles just can’t rest easy without that extra set of speakers for the home office. Home entertainment buffs might have held off on that new Blu-ray machine that has come way down in price.

Whatever the gift, the idea is to show that you put some thought into it. Whether your relationship is an hour old or someone you’ve known all your life, like your father, showing you know them is something guys appreciate as much as gals.
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Is Firefighting a Dream Job?

FireTruckThe fire department in Darien, Conn., handles 10 to 15 structure fires each year, including brush fires, house fires, and store fires. In addition, the team responds to about 600 calls per year to provide any emergency service not handled by the police.”

Taking the Heat
On a 100-degree summer day with 80 percent humidity, painters set to work removing old layers of paint from a big old house on the water in Darien, Conn., as part of a renovation. The job was made more difficult because of several layers of roofing. The combination of the heat from the stripping gun and the weather started a fire that burned for eight hours and destroyed everything, including an attic full of antiques, despite the heroic efforts of firefighters including Steve Palmer and Scott Barker. Fortunately, no one was hurt.   

Neither Palmer nor Barker has ever helped get a cat out of a tree. But these volunteer firefighting veterans have repeatedly battled one of the most destructive forces in nature.

The fire department in Darien, Conn., handles 10 to 15 structure fires each year, including brush fires, house fires, and store fires. In addition, the team responds to about 600 calls per year to provide any emergency service not handled by the police. This includes car accidents with injuries, rollovers (which can create hazards because of spilled fluids), and accidents involving tankers. Each year the team extricates 15 to 20 people from cars.

About half of the calls are false alarms, including blunders with home alarm systems.

Keeping their day jobs
Between emergencies, the 50 active members of the department don’t stand around waiting in their fire gear. Like most smaller departments, the Darien fire department is volunteer, so they’ve all got day jobs. Palmer owns his own business in computer networking/consulting for small businesses. This allows him to be available for calls from the fire department as much as possible. He spends about half of his time at each job.

Barker works nights as a respiratory therapist, which complements the schedules of the other firefighters. Other members of the staff are electricians, plumbers, and custodians. A few professional firefighters from nearby towns are stand-in members.

Seven to ten staff are on hand for each routine call. In extreme situations, the entire staff can be paged. Most firefighters can get away from their jobs in an emergency.

Recent regulation requires active firefighters to be at least 18 years old and to go through proper training. Barker, 25, walked into the local department on his 18th birthday and filled out an application.

Volunteer status suits Barker fine, given the hazards. “Being a full-time firefighter becomes extremely dangerous, not because the duties are more challenging as a professional, but because they are just doing them more,” he said.

Palmer, who started his firefighting career 16 years ago when he was in high school, is also happy to be a volunteer. “I wanted to preserve the enjoyment of it,” he said. “The fact that it wasn’t work made it more appealing. Besides, you’ve got no chance of getting wealthy as a firefighter.”

Professional firefighters working full time earn $34,000 per year on average, with only a slight opportunity for growth. Palmer estimates that he volunteers about 15 to 20 hours a week.

Weekly training at the drill tower
Training for firefighting is a continuous process. The Darien department offers basic firefighting training, which includes preparing for motor vehicle accidents, basic first aid, and CPR. The volunteers gather once a week to practice in the drill tower in sessions sometimes led by the professionals. There the volunteers rehearse the skills of placing ladders, handling hoses, extricating victims, repelling, and other drills.

In one grueling exercise, the team puts 25 gallons of flammable fuel in a pit and lights it on fire. Barker said that, in addition to the immense heat, this type of fire is difficult to combat because water would only push the flames away, and the fire would engulf anyone who got too close. Firefighters have been injured in such drills.

The department pays for accelerated training as encouragement to volunteers to continue beyond the basics. State schools generally offer training at national standards, with certification potential for Firefighter I through III, Fire Officer, and Fire Instructor. Such training programs are often stepping-stones for the younger volunteers who want to move on to professional status.

Emotional distance
A firefighter’s unofficial training involves learning to dehumanize emergencies. This lesson has helped Palmer cope with heartbreaking scenarios, including a car-garage suicide attempt that was brutally accelerated by an oil fire. Barker said the team handles a few fatalities every year.

So if you can keep your cool in emergencies, think about volunteer firefighting…and dream on!

- Leslie Tebbe, Salary.com contributor

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Is He Cheating on You?

The fact that you’re questioning this possibility is an indicator that you instinctively feel something in your relationship isn’t right.  Listen to that instinct, it’s rarely wrong!  However, something not being right, doesn’t necessarily mean that he’s cheating so before you start making wild accusations, try and piece some evidence together that won’t make you sound like a possessive mad woman!
Think about why you have this feeling that something’s not right.  Is it because of anything specific?  Can you put a date as to when it started?  Is there a timeline you can consider and then think about other things that have happened in your lives since that period? For example, is he in line for a promotion, is he having a tough time at work - perhaps endless impossible deadlines, is there a problem with any of his family members?  If you can’t think of anything, then you have to give serious thought to the fact that whatever’s going wrong is directly connected to your relationship. 
Unfortunately, even if this isn’t in your character, you need to do a little digging before confronting your partner.  Go through his pockets and wallet looking for receipts that will place him somewhere he shouldn’t be or buying something that’s unusual and that you know nothing about.  Keep a journal of his additional absences - such as the time he says he’s working late.  If he’s supposed to be at the office, find a reason to phone him there on a landline telephone - not his cell phone!  Find a reason to have to ring him from a phone that won’t identify you as the caller on his cell phone. 
Think about how his close friends are reacting towards you.  Do you feel that they are uncomfortable around you?   If he’s having an affair, chances are that his closest buddies are aware of it.  Try sounding out their girlfriends - girls need to stick together when a cheating guy is involved!
Ultimately the only way to find out if your guy is cheating on you is to confront him.  Be prepared and pick your time - it should be a time when neither of you needs to be going somewhere else.  Start off with a non-confrontational question, ‘Do you think everything’s ok with our relationship?’ and take it from there.  Use his answers as your navigation.  You already know some of what’s going on, he doesn’t know this and so you control the process. 
It could be that there’s a perfectly reasonable explanation for the way he’s been acting, so don’t condemn him without hearing what he has to say.  If his explanations don’t add up however, you have a choice of letting it go at this time and seeing if almost getting caught makes him smarten up, or you can call an end to your relationship.  The choice is yours, but make sure you are very certain that he is guilty of what you’re accusing him of before you walk away from him.

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Does That Guy Like Me?

This is the question every girl who ever felt an attraction to a guy wants to know.  At school you can get your friends to go and ask him - but once you’re out on the adult dating scene, things become a little more complicated.  Basically you’re on your own!  Of course, if you know someone who knows him, then you’ve got a head start but if the guy is a stranger to the group you usually hang out with then you need to acquire a little bit of knowledge in the body language department!
If you haven’t gotten as far as an introduction with the guy yet, try and catch his eye when you see him next.  Does he hold your gaze?  This is encouraging - he’s interested enough to return your look instead of looking away.  Have you looked in his direction and found him staring at you?  Again, another good sign.  Now you need to get a little more pro-active…faint heart never won fair lady, and these days it doesn’t win attractive guys either!
Have an excuse to move over to where he’s standing.  Smile and say ‘hi’.  What kind of a reaction do you get?  Does he return the greeting and then turn away?  Or does he try to prolong the conversation?  If he turns away, he’s either shy, embarrassed to be chatting with a girl while he’s out with his friends, or you have to assume he’s not interested.   You can decide if you want to give this another try at a different time to see whether or not you get the same response (in which case he’s probably not interested and you should move on to a guy more worthy of your attention!)  If, on the other hand, he uses the greeting to start a dialogue with you; short and flirty, long and personal, doesn’t matter!  Any kind of an attempt to keep you there near him is a sign that he is attracted to you at some level.
When he’s talking to you, does he maintain eye contact? Does his body lean in towards yours?  Is he listening to you?  Is he answering in more than one-word responses?  Is he asking questions as well as answering yours?  These are all positive signs that this guy is interested in getting to know more about you! 
The worst part of trying to find out if a guy is attracted to you is in making the first move.  But if you’re lucky, the first move is all you’ll have to make because once contact is made, the guy will probably take the initiative from there!
 

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Catch Him and Keep Him

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For women, the main objective in a relationship is getting the guy and keeping him.  Women want the secret on how they can catch him and keep him.  Women and men are so different that it seems women will never figure out what it takes to catch him and keep him.  It seems like some foreign concept.  Getting a man’s attention and then being able to keep it is something women have been working at for centuries.  Is there really a way to catch him and keep him?

The ability to catch a man and keep him is something that can be done.  It is all about attitude.  Men are not as superficial as they appear.  They are not only interested in beer, sex, food and sports.  They have emotional needs too and some of their needs are even greater than a woman’s.  What it takes to catch and keep a man is to know what they want and what makes them attracted to a women in the first place.

Here’s a list of some of the things that a women can use to catch a man.  If she’s smart she will not only use these ideas to catch a man, but keep them up so she doesn’t lose him.

- Use humor.  Everyone appreciates humor, even men.  Men respond amazingly to humor and women will find that by using it they will become very attractive to men.

- Act smart.  Despite the fact that people assume men love dumb women, the opposite is really true.  Men want a women who can think on her own.  They do not want the hassle of having to deal with someone who is an airhead.  Being ditzy may attract some men but it sure won’t keep them so acting smart is always the best bet.

- Show appreciation.  Men like to know they are needed.  However, don’t be too needy.  Men don’t want a women who is clingy, but they do want to know they are appreciated and that a women is grateful they are around.

- Keep an eye on the details.  While men are rather understated and do not verbalize things as much as women, they do use subtle cues to let you know about them.  Usually a man will have something about themselves that they are particularly proud of.  If a women notices it then she has his attention.

- Show confidence.  It is a known fact that confidence is one of the best traits any person can have.  Men are especially attracted to women who display confidence.
These are just some of the things you can do to catch him and keep him.  Just remember that you have to keep doing them or he will eventually get bored and keeping him will be difficult.

 

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How Can I Get My Boyfriend to Forgive Me?

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Well that really depends on what you did for him to mistrust you, and whether or not you’ve actually changed the behavior.  It also depends if you think that he had a reason to mistrust you in the first place, or whether it was a perceived issue on his side that created insecurity.  

If you didn’t do anything wrong, then really there’s nothing to forgive.  In this situation you aren’t looking for forgiveness.  Asking for forgiveness indicates that you did something that needs to be forgiven.  If you were wrongly accused of something by your partner, then really it’s he that should be looking for forgiveness – and do you really want to go out with a guy who assumes that just because he ‘thinks’ you did something, or his friends told him you did, when really you didn’t?  Don’t ask for forgiveness unless you really did something wrong otherwise that’s almost like a confession of guilt.  Remember, the innocent don’t need forgiveness! 

Now, on the other hand, if you did do something that damaged your relationship, you have to look at what it was you did, and what you should have done, and how you feel about it now.  For example, if you’d known that it would end your relationship with your man, would you do the same thing again?  If so, then you need to move on from this guy because you need someone who will be more tolerant.  If not, then you have to find a way of showing your guy that you’re sorry about what you did, and ensuring that he knows you’re sincere when you tell him that you won’t do it again.  

Think about how you would feel if he had done the same thing to you.  What would you have done under the same circumstances?  Would you have reacted the same way he did?  If not, why not?  Here is really where the solution lies.  By putting yourself in his position, you see the situation not from where you stand as the person acting out the behavior, but from his place as your partner watching you.  Why does it bother him so much?  Would it bother you if he’d done the same thing to you?  

A relationship goes through many ups and downs and trust is one of the biggest foundation stones that has to be set in place.  Can he trust you?  If so, then you need to find a way to have him believe that.  Just saying the words isn’t enough – on their own, they’re just words.  If you did something wrong, and you want your partner to forgive you, you need to figure out what you would want him to do in order to prove himself trustworthy again, and then turn that into something you can offer up to your boyfriend as a start in rebuilding the trust within your relationship.  

 

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Can You Trust a Handsome Man?

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Why not?  If the guy is going to cheat, it doesn’t matter if he’s handsome or otherwise, he’s not to be trusted.  The difference with a handsome man however is that he is offered more opportunities to stray from your side! 

You need to consider if you trust him, and if you do, then don’t just assume that because he’s good looking that he’s automatically a cheater.  This isn’t necessarily the case.  Unless he has given you cause to mistrust him, you are putting a major stress on your relationship by allowing your insecurities to interfere with the way you feel towards your partner.  You won’t ever be happy if you can’t see what he’s doing, and he’s not going to be happy knowing that whatever he says, you don’t believe him.  Until he gives you reason to think that he’s showing an interest in other women, don’t mess up your relationship with “maybe” scenarios! 

One thing you do need to watch however is how your friends are around him.  Most women enjoy the company and interaction with a handsome guy – the fact that this is ´your´ guy isn’t going to stop them from making a play for him!  If you’re man isn’t just good looking, but he’s also charming and funny, then this makes him a magnet for other women.  Even if he’s not interested, that won’t stop them trying!  It doesn’t mean that you should drop all your friends and move to some secluded island where you can keep your man all to yourself however!  What it does mean is that you should target your insecurities to real threats and not to perceived ones.  Don’t mistrust your man just because he’s handsome, and ignore the fact that it’s actually your friends who are flirting with him! 

All women are beautiful in some way.  By assuming that a handsome man can’t be trusted, that should also mean – in this age of equality – that a beautiful woman can’t be trusted.  Do you believe this is also true?  Can your partner trust you?  Or are you looking at other guys?  Of course you’re not, why should you when you’ve already got the guy you want – and the same applies to him. 

There are some men who cheat; that’s not in dispute but don’t assume that your man will be one of them until a situation presents itself where you have real reason to doubt him.  If he has a history of cheating, or he left another woman for you, then this is a history that needs to be monitored because it can become a pattern.  If this isn’t the case however, relax and just enjoy the company of a good looking man, not to mention being the envy of the women around you! 

 

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Is Your Boyfriend Out of Shape?

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If you’re asking the question, then chances are you already know the answer, so the real question is “what are you going to do about it?”  Does it matter to you?  If you’re noticing, then more than likely it matters and so you need to find some way of changing him back to the lean mean dating machine you were attracted to!  

Although it’s women who are stereotypically portrayed as being ultra-sensitive about their appearance, don’t underestimate the male ego.  Most men are as sensitive about people making negative remarks about their appearance as women are, they just hide it better!  If you want to hurt your guy’s feelings, go right ahead and tell him straight up that he’s looking a bit chubby and needs to lose weight!  Chances are he’s going to lose weight alright – weight that’s the equivalent of what you weigh as he’ll cut you out of his life rather than his beer and potato chips! 

Instead of opening a discussion about him carrying around some excess pounds, consider a different route.  Healthy lifestyle is a huge topic in magazines and newspapers.  Find an article that gives suggestions for healthy living that you can buy into, and then sell him on the idea.  Approach from an angle of “we should have a healthier lifestyle” rather than “you need to lose weight”.  For most people, if they switch from their current eating habits and non-existent fitness regime, to a healthy eating program and some level of exercise, they will lose weight.  As they lose weight, they’ll gain more energy and so they can put more effort into doing things that will keep the weight falling off.  All you need is to convert him to the first initial stages! 

Even if your boyfriend is as enthusiastic about this healthy lifestyle that you are promoting for the two of you, don’t make drastic changes – especially if he’s someone who thinks walking half a block to the grocery store is exercise, and even that should be rewarded with a candy bar!  Introduce the changes gradually.  A few food changes, no fried food, diet drinks – or ice cold mineral water, low fat milk, smoothies (fresh fruit and low fat milk variety) and you’re off to a good start.  Find some physical activities that you are both interested in taking part in.  Think about what you’d like to do first, and then get him hooked on the idea.  

Be prepared to start the new lifestyle changes as soon as you get him to emotionally sign up!  If he has a cooling off period, he’ll back out.  So have the reservation forms for your chosen activities, and a shopping list of initial dietary changes at the ready for when you decide to have this “revelation” about you both pursuing a healthier lifestyle. 

If you can’t get him interested, and he’s happy to be the way that he is, you have to make a decision.  Can you love him as he is?  Or do you need to move on, and find someone who isn’t carrying so many excess pounds around?   That is a decision only you can make. 

 

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Is He Just Using Me?

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This is a difficult question, but the fact that you’re asking it means that there’s something in how he’s interacting with you that doesn’t feel right.  A woman’s intuition is a powerful thing and you need to learn to listen to it.  Sometimes it tells you everything’s okay when you’re suspicious about something, but other times, it acts as an advance radar warning of something not being as it should be.  If you have that feeling, then you really need to consider what’s happening in your relationship. 

Instead of dismissing the feeling out of hand, give it a little bit of thought.  How does your partner act with you?  Does he act the same when you are in public together as he does in private, or does he tend to leave you on your own and socialize with others at a party?  Does he draw you into his crowd of friends, or shut you out?  Just because you are partners doesn’t necessarily mean that you should be a constant fixture on his arm, but if his circle of friends is a mix of male and female, and he keeps you on the outside of that, it’s cause for concern.  If it’s an all guys group, that’s different.  Guys together want to be guys and having a girl amongst them is inhibiting, so your partner would soon find himself on the outside if you had to tag along each time!  So think about where you stand with his friends.  If you’re being unreasonably shut out of his social circle, then that’s a warning flag going up. 

Think about what you bring to the relationship.  Are you the one who has the apartment, or the car, or the finances to pay for the activities you take part in?  What does he bring to the relationship?  Be honest with yourself, if you are paying for most of the life you have together, or if you are the one that does all the care taking for the pair of you – cooking and laundry for example – this is another sign to really think about.  He may just be transferring responsibility for his wellbeing from his mother to you, his partner, or he may just be using you to get his stuff done whilst he’s out looking for a more permanent relationship.  You need to explore this further. 

A relationship ought to be about two equal people wanting to be together.  If you feel that this isn’t happening with your relationship, then you need to think honestly about what you’re getting out of the relationship compared with what you’re putting in.  Are you the love of his life, or do you feel as if he treats you as he would a mother – or even an asset he can show off when he feels like it?  If so, it may be time to put his commitment to the test and break up with him.  He may not come after you, but if he doesn’t, he’s no big loss!  Find a man that appreciates you as his partner instead. 

 

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