Wondrous Words About You

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Here are five tips for writing a killer online dating profile. 

The first tip on profile writing for online dating has to do with length. You generally want to write no more than 250 words, most of which will be about you and some of which (no more than 100 words) will be about the person you are seeking. On some online dating sites your profile will only be about you, as there is also a separate location to include information about your ideal mate. If this is the case, then you would still write 200-250 words about yourself in your profile. 

The second tip about writing a killer online dating profile is to pretend that you are meeting someone in person for the first time. The meeting is casual. You might be at a party given by a friend, at a coffee shop, or a bar. Think about what you would say to that person who stands next to you and asks, “Tell me about yourself.” That’s the same thing, then, that belongs in your online dating profile. 

The third tip is about the style of your online dating profile. To make it a killer profile you want to mix fact with personality. Tell other singles the factual things about yourself such as your age and body type, your race, marital status and perhaps the type of job you do but don’t just put that out there as a string of facts. Intersperse this information with some humor and personality. 

It should be fun to read, it should make the others who see your killer online dating profile to want to know more about you, and it should be well written. Unless you are especially embarrassed about anyone knowing you are dating online, have a close friend whose communication skills you trust read your profile before you put it live on the Web. Make sure it is grammatically correct, and has no spelling errors. There are those who, no matter how interesting your online profile, will discount it as a killer profile because you are not writing well or because your words are misspelled. Many people incorrectly assume that bad spelling correlates with low intellect. 

The next of the five tips for writing a killer online dating profile has to do with the content. Your profile should include information about your career and your education. You not only want to say what you do for a living now (carefully, so as not to give away your actual employer) but how you came to move into this position. Talk about your progression in your career, and the training you had to rise in your profession or trade. If your highest education is high school indicating such is not generally seen as positive, however. That is an assumed and best left out. Talk about your children, if you have any, and the places you have been and lived. 

The last of the five tips for writing a killer online dating profile has to do with clarifying the type of person you are seeking. Be wary of absolutes and superlatives. I am looking for a non-smoker is a good thing to note, but only if, for instance, you would never consider dating someone who is trying to quit. If you describe your ideal mate make sure it’s clear that ideal is just that – someone you can strive for, not expecting to turn aside someone who fits most of the bill. 

These, then, are the five most important tips for writing a killer online dating profile.
  

 

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Emotional Health in Teens

Published by <ADMINNICENAME> under Teenagers

If you are wondering if you are emotionally healthy, here are the key things to consider. 

People who have good emotional health have control over their thoughts and their behaviors and their feelings. Emotionally healthy people feel good about themselves and have positive relationships. 

If you are emotionally healthy you are able to keep your problems in perspective, not building minor difficulties all out of proportion or failing to realize the seriousness of major issues. If you are emotionally healthy you are aware of yourself and you have self control.  If you exhibit all of these traits then you can be confident that you are emotionally healthy. 

Teens often have trouble maintaining emotional health. A very difficult time in their life, the teenager could become overwhelmed by the combination of physical and emotional changes he or she is going through. If you are a teenager wondering if you are emotionally healthy, know that this is not uncommon. 

You can endure many pressures as a teenager. You feel a lot of pressure from your peers to fit in , and their pressure can be counter to the pressure your parents, teachers and other adult caregivers are putting on you. Sometimes you wonder if you are emotionally healthy just because you are torn between trying to be cool for your friends, get good grades for your future and your parents, and excel at sports or other extracurricular activities. 

When you are a teen you are transitioning from your childhood into adulthood. You want to depend on your parents but you want to be independent too. All this struggle, and all these changes may make you wonder, are you emotionally healthy?
 
If you are the parent or caregiver of a teenager and their emotional health is in question what you need to do is look for the warning signs that something is wrong emotionally.  Not recognizing and acting on these signs can lead to alcohol or drug abuse, unprotected sex, eating disorder or depression.
 
Teens who are not emotionally healthy may seem agitated or overly restless. They may lose or gain weight at a greater than normal pace. They may exhibit unusual problems in schools – getting poor grades when they had excelled before, or playing hooky or getting into fights or arguments. They may seem to have trouble concentrating. 

Teens who are not emotionally healthy may seem sad most of the time, and may stop caring about people and things that used to matter a lot to them. They may seem like they are no longer motivated by the things and activities that used to excite them. They might quit the football team or give up cheerleading. They may seem always tired, and seem to have only a fraction of the boundless energy they used to exhibit.  They may seem to suffer from low self-esteem and their hygiene and wardrobe may suffer. They may have trouble falling asleep, staying asleep or both.
  

 

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Fibs and Falsehoods about Love

Published by <ADMINNICENAME> under Myths

Are you aware of the ten biggest romance myths? 
The first romance myth is that you should not have to work at romance – that if you are in love it should just happen without effort. Romance takes work; it takes spontaneity so that you do not become bored with each other. Romance grows if you open yourself up to each other, do kind things for each other and try new things.
The second of the 10 biggest romance myths is that sexual pleasure is for the young and if you two have grown apart sexually over the years it’s just natural.
The only reason for abstinence is physical illness. Those who have lost their sexual desires need to seek counseling to determine the root cause.
The third of the 10 biggest romance myths is that marriage and other long term relationships are more beneficial to men than they are to women. There are some understandable reasons for the start of this myth, when women began to understand their right to equality and some women found themselves happily leaving the home each day to enjoy a career. The fact is that for many women the marriage is their most important career, and they happily enjoy their husbands and their marriage.
Romance myth number four is that luck and sex are the keys to a long and happy personal partnership. This is far from the truth. Commitment to each other and the ability to be each others’ best friend are the primary ingredients in successful long term relationships.
Myth number five about romance is that couples who live together before they get married to each other are able to find out how well they are suited for a life together and this will lead to greater likelihood of a happy marriage. Statistics don’t bear this out. In fact, it seems that the opposite is true. 
Myth number six is that the chances of people staying committed to one partner for a lifetime are lessened now that we live longer. Nowadays people are waiting longer to marry and then settling down at a later age.   This tends to mean better choices as the partners are more mature when they commit.
The seventh of the 10 biggest romance myths is that unhappy people will become happy once they find that perfect mate. The fact is that unhappy people are unhappy, and generally are more apt to make their partners miserable than their partners are apt to resolve their unhappiness for them. 
The eighth of the 10 biggest romance myths is that we can marry or make a long term commitment to someone and then change what we don’t like about them. Rarely does this happen. All that happens is that the person who wants the partner to change gets frustrated and the person who is expected to change gets angry. Not a good recipe for marital harmony at all.
Myth number nine is that people simply fall out of love with their long term partners. What they’re usually saying is the sex isn’t as spicy and exciting as it used to be. That can be resolved. Infatuation doesn’t stay forever, nor should it. Most marriages can be “saved” if both partners want to try.  

The last of the 10 biggest romance myths is that people who are too different should divorce. It’s far more likely that each partner is trying to make the other responsible for fulfillment of his or her needs, instead of working together to compromise and be each others’ companions. 

 

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